Life is a balance between holding on and letting go.
When I shared this fun meme on social media, it received many likes and shares. When I see this, I know it’s a message people may want to expand on.
Can you relate to this statement?
As I look at my topics for my blogs, I do research into what others may say about it.
Here is a link I used to find some insights into letting go:
In the book I read several years ago, Tuesday’s With Morrie, here is what the author, Mitch Albom said about this:
“Morrie tells me, “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.”
The author of the Elephant Journal said:
“Reading this has opened up a new portal for me on the notion of, letting go and it has dramatically changed the course of my actions. Before swiftly letting go of anything, I now practice holding on first.
The fact is that we either let go and refuse to hold on, or we hold on and become incapable of letting go. And frequently, making the right decision at times of challenge confuses us—should we hold on to our job or look for a new one? Should we hang on to our relationship or let go of our partner? Should we move on from something/someone or give it another chance?
I’ve come to notice that the bulk of our life decisions revolve around these two questions: Do we hold on? Or, do we let go?”
Hence the quote above, “Life is a balance between hanging on and letting go”.
These two actions are related.
Letting go too soon may take away an outcome that may lead to it working out. Let’s say you let go of a relationship too soon without giving it lots of thought and perhaps help from a counselor or therapist. You’ll wonder later if you did everything you could to strengthen this relationship or not.
When you give it the time, attention and the action that’s needed to strengthen your relationship, and it still doesn’t work out, you’ll at least know in your heart you did what you could.
The author of The Elephant Journal went on to say:
“Hanging on too long is destructive and much more hazardous than letting go too soon. It keeps us stuck in a bad situation, and it drains us emotionally and mentally. In other words, hanging on too long often makes things worse.
So, how to know when we should hang on (but not for too long) and when we should let go (but not too soon)?
The answer is the combination of looking both inward and outward.”
Looking inward and outward says to me, you need to take time to ask yourself how long has this gone on, what are your overall feelings about all of this? How much attention have you given to this? Does nothing change even though you’ve attempted different things? Is this job or relationship helping you to feel joy?
Whether it’s a relationship or a job or something else you’re struggling with, stop and pay attention to yourself and your thoughts and feelings.
Trust your intuition. Ask God. Meditate. Ask for guidance. Listen and tune in for your answers. They are there.
You’ll then have a better chance at moving forward in your life with either decision. To hang on or to let go?
Feel free to connect with me about this topic. I’d love to hear from you.
With love and blessings,
PA. Below is the Emotional Chart as a reminder to you to pay attention to what your feelings are throughout your day. Then do what you need to do to change around your thoughts. Print this chart so you can look at it often!