When you are disappointed, being thankful helps.
I’ve been feeling disappointed.
Due to COVID-19, I won’t be flying to Toledo to be with my parents and family for Thanksgiving or Christmas. I haven’t missed a Thanksgiving or Christmas with them over the years.
With my parents age and health issues, we need to keep them safe.
However, knowing keeping them safe is a must, it doesn’t keep me from feeling disappointed.
Consequently, my tears have fallen this week and I have needed to use all the tools I know, to help me feel better.
As I talk about and teach, appreciation and being thankful, helps you shift your emotions to a higher vibration. Hence, you begin to feel better.
As a result of this pandemic, all of us on this planet have been greatly affected.
Likewise, most probably, all of us have felt disappointed many times throughout the last 8 months.
What do you do to help yourself feel better when you feel disappointed?
Here are some things I thought of after doing research on this topic. I’ll include a link at the bottom of one of the sites I read:
- Allow yourself to cry, to feel disappointed.
- Share with someone you love what you’re feeling.
- Get busy doing things that make you feel good. Such as exercise, being with your grandkids, listening to music, singing, writing in a gratitude journal, a hobby.
- For me, writing my articles each week, helps me process.
- Put things in perspective. For instance, in my case, if I would pass this virus to my parents, I would feel horrible. The vaccine isn’t too far away for them to take, so next year, my hopes are, I will be flying there for their 70th wedding anniversary and Mom’s birthday, in February.
- Take things one step at a time.
- Meditate. Pray. Breathe.
- Knowing so many others are experiencing the same thing, not being with their families, helps me to not feel alone in my disappointed feelings.
What is Disappointment?
The Merriam-Webster English Dictionary defines disappointment as “defeated in expectation or hope.” As an emotion, disappointment is characterized by a feeling of regret or sadness often related to a loss. The loss may be the loss of a loved one or changes in circumstances, such as the loss of a job or home, a failing grade on a test or a bad medical diagnosis.”
Disappointment is a profound way in which sadness is experienced.
Some people may do whatever they can to avoid recognizing that they are disappointed and will twist their thinking every which way to not recognize a true disappointment.
When sadness is triggered, a heavy emptiness or longing is felt because your brain has determined that you have experienced a loss.
That is what I have been feeling. Sad.
There is one more aspect of the sadness triggered with disappointment. Usually, it is assumed that people who value happiness and joy, can hold on to positive feelings and may be resilient, if not immune, to the negative effects of disappointing experiences. Not true.
Finally, I greatly value joy and happiness. Only, I am still sad and disappointed.
I do however know how to not stay in these lower vibration feelings all the time.
As I mentioned in my list above, I need to continue to do all these things often.
“Life will throw many obstacles onto our life path that will make us sad at times. Dealing positively with these obstacles is what makes the difference between them turning into worse states or being overcome.”
― Jonny Oates Read
If you have any other thoughts for me, please contact me with them. I’d appreciate hearing from you.
With love and appreciation for you,
Here is a link with another person’s thoughts about being disappointed: