Thank you for your thoughts and comments.
I want to fill you in on some of the insights since my last two articles.
After the death of my two cousins and some other things going on with people, I love around me, the introspection I spoke about last week has continued.
I received many emails with your thoughts about the question I asked.
The question about if you thought our souls choose to leave here.
Peace has taken over inside of me as I have processed so much since returning home from Mary’s funeral.
I met with a new friend of mine who is a spiritual person the other day. We met to talk about my question in my article and her thoughts about this topic.
I thank you so much my new dear friend for your insights. As she stated something like, “If you wouldn’t have had all of the feelings and questions about your cousins passing, you wouldn’t have moved to another level of understanding in your life. God puts things in our lives and we always have the power to choose what we do with it all.”
Thank you to all of you who took the time to write to me or talk with me on the phone about all of this.
The consensus is we will not know so many of these things until we leave here ourselves.
For me, my peace came as I knew Mary really would have loved to stay here to be with her 5 children, husband, siblings, her many friends and extended family. She would have loved helping her daughter, newly engaged, pick out her wedding dress and with all the wedding details.
Only given that Mary’s physical body was so compromised by the lack of oxygen, she wouldn’t have been the same person.
I like to think that as Mary’s soul knew this, she with God, chose to have her physical body leave.
Our souls live on, however.
I also like to think that Mary will live on in all who loved her and knew her. She will be there in spirit when her daughter marries and always, with all her other children’s special occasions.
The appreciation I feel for my life and everyone and everything in it, is larger than it has ever been.
Thank you to Mary and Suzy for my increased introspection and appreciation.
What about you? Do you slow down and stop and really pay attention to those around you and find that appreciation too?
Here’s a different exercise I have never heard of, my friend Sherri shared with me to help with grief. Maybe this will be something you may practice. This is part of her email to me after my article last week:
“When I was in my NLP course, we taught a grief exercise. You get into a deep theta state of meditation and imagine you have a basket in your hands. Then (in your mind) you pick up a beautiful pebble and put it in the basket. Each time you pick up a pebble, you attach a beautiful memory of your loved one to it and put it in the basket to keep. This way, you are reminded of all the beautiful memories and leave any negative ones behind (like the pain and suffering of illness, arguments or actions not taken). You could actually do this exercise with your family using a real basket and pieces of paper.”
My hope is that through my thoughts and experiences I’ve shared with you, you too will begin to stop living on autopilot more often than not. I hope you’ll show and share your love and who you are, more often with others as well.
I promise you, I will be doing that.
With love and appreciation,
PS. The photo above of me and Mary, was the last time I saw her in July 2019.
Below is the family photo taken of Mary and her family in the spring of 2019. So beautiful!