The art of allowing is when you’re not resisting. It’s going with the flow. Do You remember me sharing about Wu-Wei? It’s a Chinese word meaning, going with the flow/letting go. Very similar.
I think it’s called the “art” of allowing, since “art” implies it may take practice.
Releasing resistance could also be called the art of surrender, or just letting it go. The “it” you let go of, is any thought, feeling or belief that generates negative emotions inside of you.
Trust and have faith in God.
When we’re releasing resistance, we’re automatically engaged in the art of allowing. According to Abraham-Hicks, allowing is our natural state.
You know you’re allowing when your thoughts, feelings and emotions are generally positive.
You must find the feeling place of what you want, before you can see it and have it.
Most of us have a vision about allowing 24×7 and what it might look like. You may think of it as the photo above of me in the hammock, listening to the ocean waves, at our 2016 Kauai Spiritual Vacation Retreat. Or it may be you doing something you truly enjoy doing.
Allowing is a fleeting state for most of us. We continually slide back and forth with feeling resistance at one end and allowing at the other.
If you’re driving along a beautiful country road on a sunny afternoon, windows open: allowing.
Driving tensely on a 5-lane freeway during rush hour and being cut off by a reckless driver: resistance.
If it sounds simple… it is. Yet, few of us take the time to release resistance, even when we’re aware of its presence.
Instead of allowing this see-saw between the two polarities of resistance and choosing to run on autopilot as your mind reacts to whatever you observe, how about if you release resistance as soon as you notice it?
Whenever you release resistance, your vibrational point of attraction automatically returns to its natural state of well-being and allowing. Think of allowing as floating on the water’s surface, as you’re going downstream.
Resistance would be attempting to move upstream, fighting the current. You don’t have to work hard at allowing. If you make it a habit to notice and release resistance, you automatically live more of each day in a state of allowing.
How do you begin to allow and go with the flow? Begin to consciously pay attention to what you’re feeling as many of your moments of your day as you can. Stop and picture how you want to feel. Then pull that feeling in. Create in your mind’s eye something you love to do.
Then become aware of what you’re thinking throughout your day. When you catch yourself thinking something negative or of a lower vibration, gently stop yourself and change around that thought to something positive. Think of someone or something you appreciate.
Appreciation is a doorway to quickly change your feelings, your emotional vibration, to a higher level.
It’s simple to allow – only it’s not always easy. That’s because it takes consciousness to notice when we’re resistant.
Typically, people try to ignore resistance or shrug it off, not realizing that this only attracts more of it. In addition to attracting more resistance in this moment, ignoring resistance, sets you up to attract more resistance into your future. Not fun!
Releasing resistance doesn’t require a lot of effort or time. Here are 5 quick and simple ways to do it. The only requirements are:
First: decide you want to be more aware of when you’re in resistance – don’t worry, God and the universe always answer this request!
Second: When you are aware of that negative emotion you’re feeling, act to let the resistance go. For example, you could experiment with any of these: 5 Steps for Releasing Resistance
1.Take a big huge deep breath
Then let out the strongest exhale you can, telling yourself that the resistance is leaving. Repeat this a few times until you notice yourself feeling lighter or calmer – a shift toward a positive emotion is your sign you have released resistance and shifted into allowing.
2. Give yourself a 5- or 10-minute break and watch, read or listen to something that makes you laugh or relax. Watching a funny video or listening to a guided meditation or ocean waves, are something you can do.
3.Recall a person or pet you adore and send as many loving and appreciative thoughts their way as you can – set a timer for 3-5 minutes and just let yourself appreciate. Write down in this time as well, as many things as come to your mind, that you appreciate. You will feel yourself letting go and feeling lighter.
4.Get outside for 5 or 10-minutes (or longer). If the weather’s nice, it’s easier to stay outside longer. It’s ideal if you can get to a park, a trail, or a body of water.
5.Do something for someone. Getting out of our own habitual state of focus on “me and my issues” is one of the quickest ways to release resistance. Help an elderly neighbor take out the trash or just go sit and chat with them for a bit. Donate your time with the charity of your choice. Help a friend or relative.
These 5 steps to release resistance work because allowing is our natural state, and the moment we release resistance, we return to that state.
Enjoy the 5 steps and let me know your experience with them! You’ll be living within the “art’ of allowing as you do.
The more often you practice all of the above and release your resistant feelings, the more joy you’ll have in your life. You will be allowing more of the people, places and things into your life that you truly would love to have.
Love and blessings,
PS. Please print and look at this Emotional Scale below, several times each day. It helps you to slow down and realize what you’re thinking and feeling.
PSS. Happy Mother’s Day to my beautiful mom, Mary! I love you beyond words and I appreciate you so much. Happy Mother’s Day to all of the other mom’s out there!