During this month of love, I’m sharing once again, an integral piece of where love begins. Being able to say “I love you” to yourself, and feel it.
Can you do this and truly feel it?
First, I wrote a blog many years ago about this topic and it was picked up by I Am Enough Magazine.
As a result, for me, in 1974, when I was 19 years old, and in my first personal growth class, I learned I didn’t know anything about loving myself. They told us to go home and look in the mirror and say, “I love you” as often as we could each day.
When I first began doing this, I could not look in the mirror without crying as I was saying “I love you” to myself. I didn’t really feel it.
Because I know others feel or felt the way I did back then, this subject, to be able to love yourself, is still one of importance.
Being successful in your work, your relationships and in the quiet of your own thoughts and heart, begins with loving yourself.
I suggest you give this exercise a try. When I first began doing this, as I said, I cried each time. It was a while later when I was able to look in the mirror and say “I love you” without crying.
It’s not simply this exercise, is it, that will help you love yourself? This is a beginning.
Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually are the keys to loving yourself. Pay attention to what your self-talk is saying.
As I’ve talked about before in other blogs, physical movement is very important to get the good feeling endorphins moving throughout your body. Whether you go to a health club or gym regularly or get outside and walk, jog, bike, or do yoga. Physical movement will shift your vibrations to a higher level.
If you remember the Emotional Scale I share often in my blogs, the more you are consciously living on the left side of the scale, where your vibrations are higher, the better you feel and the more you will be attracting the people and situations into your life. The more you will love yourself.
I will include the Emotional Scale again at the bottom of this article so you can print it and keep in places to remind you to pay attention to what you’re feeling and hence what you’re thinking.
As you continue to take responsibility for yourself and your life, you will love yourself so much more. As the meme above says, “The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you’ll tolerate.”
Hence, your self respect grows as well. And the more you love yourself, the more you will have to give to others. It all goes hand in hand.
Take time each morning to pray and read something uplifting. Even if it’s simply an inspirational quote you receive each day in a text or an email.
Take time to meditate, even if it’s only 5-10 minutes listening to an ocean waves app, or flute music. Anything that will help you to feel relaxed and let go of stress. Take deep breaths often.
Write each day in a gratitude journal. As I’ve spoken about many times, appreciation is the doorway to move your vibrations higher on this scale. You will live more often on the left side every day.
Furthermore, as you take time to write down, or simply look around and find things you appreciate, I guarantee you will begin to feel better. And your love of yourself will greatly increase.
Take time to thank God often. Surround yourself with uplifting, positive people. The more you are around the opposite people, the harder it will be for you to live on the left side of the Emotional Scale.
One of my former coaches said, “Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated”.
I often remember this powerful bit of advice.
Finally, you will find more joy than you ever knew existed. The lightness and peace you will begin to feel certainly will help you to love yourself, don’t you agree?
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With love and blessings,